Marriages are amongst those sensitive relationships that need special care and attention. Here, we have listed the most important things that we feel must be given proper attention in a marriage.
Your attitude matters the most.
Changing behavior for the good is important, but so is changing attitudes. Bad attitudes often drive bad feelings which are not good for the relationship.
If you change your mind, you can change your marriage.
How couples think about their spouses affects how they perceive each other. What they expect and how they treat their spouse matters greatly.
The grass is greenest where you water it.
Many happy couples have learned to resist the grass is greener myth (someone else will make me happy). They put their energy into making themselves and their marriage better and happier.
You can change your situations by changing yourself.
Older couples do realise that trying to change their partner is like trying to push a mountain — impossible. Undoubtedly, the only person we can change in our marriage is ourselves.
Happiness is not a Forever Thing.
Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness depends on your own attitude towards life. Successful couples learn to intentionally manage things that will bring happiness back when life seems to be dull and lost.
Couples value their spouse showing up.
When things get difficult and you don’t know what to do, you need to hang in there and you expect your spouse to stick with you. Life has a way of working things out by giving out opportunities to overcome challenges and reduce stress.
If you do what you always do, you will not move forward.
Wise couples have to address issues differently to get different results. Often, making minor changes in approach, attitude and actions make the biggest difference in marriage.
Love is not just a feeling.
In everyday life, feelings, like happiness, will fluctuate. But in reality, love is based on a couple’s vows of commitment: to stick together when it feels good and when it doesn’t.
Let bygones be bygones.
Happy couples resist holding grudges and bringing up the past again with the sole purpose of moving forward with their partner. You must remember that you married an imperfect person and so did your spouse.
A crisis doesn’t mean the marriage is finished.
Conflicts are like storms, scary and dangerous. But to get through a storm you have to keep moving. A crisis can lead to a new beginning. It’s out of tough times that great relationships and marriages are maintained.